9. TEMP: Intentionality of Focus Based on Reactivity Assessment

In this episode, we discuss the importance of always assessing reactivity through the therapeutic process to help you intentionally focus on whether you need to work with blocks and secondary emotions or go for work in more vulnerability. We want to make sure you don’t get caught in one of these three error zones. 

1. Getting caught in no man’s land trying to do both (deepening vulnerability or missing openness by over organizing) at the same time.  
2. Going for vulnerability when the couple/client is too reactive.
3. Over organizing when the client is open to vulnerability and needs you to follow the juice (live emotion) and guide them toward success in corrective emotional experiences.  

Key Point: When people are in reactivity, please stop what you are doing and lean into their secondary emotions and blocks. When people are emotionally open, go with our theory of change, and guide them in having success in their vulnerability via corrective emotional experiences.